Lessons in relationships

I felt a lot disturbed today after hearing of someone I knew distanly having committed suicide. Though I never knew her personally, I find myself wondering of the  probable reasons that could have led her to take the extreme step. What reason can ever be good enough for someone to decide to end their own life ? I am told though there were a few disturbances in her relationship with her husband  sometime back ,they apparently had resolved them amicably. But even if they hadn't does a failed relationship amount to a person being a failure altogether in life?

In the world we know today where everything around is instant and quickfix why is it important for relationships to stand the test of time and last a lifetime? If someone is not comfortable in a job they move on to another, we no longer stick to a single family car for the whole life and shift to different cites and countries frequently with easy whenever necessary. Then why are there different rules and regulations to all other things in life and our relationships. It is the contrast in these situations which lead to confusion and frustration. Youngsters today must be told that it is okay for a relationship to not work and fail your expectations. Its okay for you and you partner to change and commit mistakes. And it is absoultely not required of you to carry  the baggage of a long before dead relationship till death do you apart when you can both choose to seperate and find your individual happiness. Its okay to just move on.

When any relationship ends the whole world comes crashing down. Being in depression is something only someone who has been through it can understand. I have been through the worst of it myself. But what has helped me through those tough times was having my friends by my side. Having a few or atleast one such friend is the most important treasure in life. They can possibly not solve anything for you but they atleast lend you a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen. Everybody is aware of their own problems and even the solutions to them however often choose not to aknowledge those. Never can a third person be held responsible for a crumbled relationship, it is the non existence of a relationship that creates place for that third person. There are times when it is difficult to come to terms with a loss. We all know that every wound  heals with time, all that is required  of us is to give time some time.  At such times when you find it difficult to comprehend the situation yourself , all you needs is to hear the truth form someone else. That is when a friend can give  a tight hug assuring that it is not the end. One must never stop communicating with friends and family and  it is perfectly fine to seek help when doing it on your own may not seem possible. Seeking support is an attribute of strength and not weakness. Weak crumble under the burden of their own cowardice. So before stepping on to the road with a dead end ...just go pick up the phone and talk to someone you trust...because eventually this too shall pass.