Lessons for the society with daughters !

So another gang rape in a moving car in Dellhi today...another girl found hanging by a tree in a UP village ...various politicians and women activists busy discussing the grim situation on different news channels.

What is one suppose to feel on hearing or reading such things??
Anger....aggression ....frustration !!

But I don't...instead I feel amused...pity...helpless !

Surprised, because you cannot correlate these emotion with the context mentioned here.

Let me explain and then you decide for yourself .

Today me and a colleague of mine found an objectionable folder named after another junior colleague of ours, on one of the desktops at our working station. Though the folder was empty and did not contain any obsence content as it's name suggested,  it was clear that the folder was created by someone in the department itself with not so good intentions. We were furious and reported the matter to the concerned authorities.  Investigation was initiated but then soon  stopped because the junior colleague in question did not want to pursue the matter any further.

Why??  Because she was counselled by another senior colleague , not to report it because if she gives a  written complaint , the matter will be out in open and everybody would know about it. And she should not be influenced by me in particilar,  because, since I am not married , I will never understand the consequences she may have to face . Nothing serious has happened yet and you can anyway not change people's sick mentality . So she should let it be..

What the F ?
I was trying to stand up for somebody who doesn't want to do it for herself .

So the b@$!@¥€ is still going to roam around in the department till he gathers enough courage to do it to me, for me to challenge him.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr !!!!!!

And then I met a patient of mine who tried to commit suicide today. Why??  Becuase he was depressed about his illness, his financial crunch and his daughter who is fighting a divorce case . He wants his daughter to reconcile and go back to the same family which abandoned her within a day of her marriage declaring her a 'pagal'!!

Though I wanted to blast him off, but considering his mental state ,I tried to reason with him.And after about 45 mins of counselling I was able to convince him , or at least I think so, that his daughter is better off with him rather than going back into such a family where they could have done anything to her if she was forcefully sent back .
Uffffffffff !!!!!!

Hopefully, that gave you an insight into the choice of my emotions !

So what do you feel now ?

Anger or amusement...
Aggression or pity....
Frustration or helplessness...

But , what do we learn from the events of the day?

Let me enumerate the lessons I learnt... the leasons our society needs to learn too...

*For the girls :

Goddammit !! Stand up for yourself  before its too late . No one else is going to do it for you. No father , no brother , no husband is going to protect you always and everywhere. You have to do it for yourself. Don't wait till you get raped . Raise your voice everytime anybody misbehaves with you. You did no wrong so don't feel embarrassed.  Embarrass the other person and let him know you are not going to take it lightly.

*For the husband and the in-laws :

She left her home and came to yours. It's your duty not only to protect but also support her. If someone misbehaves with her its not her fault. There is no embarrassment in standing up for her.

*For the parents:

Don't just get rid of her by marrying her off ! Marriage is a part of her, not her whole existence. She can do better off without an abusive husband. She is your flesh and blood. Feel her pain. Don't push her towards someone or somewhere she is not welcomed. She may never come back.

And just as you teach your girls to protect themselves and their dignity, don't forget to teach your boys too, to treat them with respect.

P.S: Just because I am not married doesn't mean I own no dignity or command no resecpt. Beware !! Because I can be dangerous by the virtue of my single status.